“What if jealousy really is a matter of geometry, just a matter of where we allow ourselves to stand in relation to another? And maybe then we wouldn’t have to resent somebody’s excellence. We could align ourselves with it.”
Sometimes envy can be our enemy, and other times it can be our motivation. Its power lies in metamorphosis; when we transform envy into empowerment, we become our better selves, and open up a playroom full of possibilities.
Often times I’ve found myself wishing I could climb as strong, nimble, and graceful as the women around me who I admire and envy at the same time.
It used to be that I couldn’t stand to be around those women because I’d like myself a little bit less. In transforming my own envy into inspiration – from resenting them for being better than me to wanting to surround myself with the best so that I could learn to be better – I’ve experienced my own personal transformation and growth.
Daring to be honest with myself and others about owning up to envy around other women has not been easy. And yet I believe it really can be so simple – to perceive jealousy as a “problem of geometry, not emotion”.
Once we shift our perceptions of envy the way we shift our body weight from one side to another on a tricky climb, it’s just a matter of aligning ourselves with the optimal side – the one where admiration reigns, and anything becomes possible. And that’s a pretty awesome place to be.
5 thoughts on “An Ode to Envy: Ascending to Our Better Selves”
Beautifully said. Something we all can relate to and work on. 🙂
Thank you Amber for your kind and encouraging words! I’m definitely a work in progress (as we all are) and love sharing my experiences with others!
Amazingly honest and very inspiring – thanks for being so open about something we all experience as women!!
Thank you Emily for your lovely words – they mean so much to me! Progress is always a process of becoming and I welcome it 🙂
This was my favorite post – definitely something I’ve been working on in myself, and it feels so great to be less envious and more at peace with other women. I love the way you’ve described it here. Thank you! Hope to see you soon, girl!